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Over the years I have had many friends and relationships come and go. Sometimes we are incredibly close to someone and the relationship serves us well for a period of time. Other times those relationships may start to feel depleting and exhausting.

It’s important to not let yourself get dragged down or let animosity and resentment build up towards someone. To determine if the relationship is worth continuing, there are some vital signs to look for.

There are many relationships we have in life- close friends, co-workers, family, acquaintances. …

Addiction, mental illness, and self sabotaging behavior

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I had a birthday last week. I didn’t want to make a big thing about it but wanted to celebrate somewhat, so I got a hotel room in the City, tickets to a baseball game, and invited a couple girlfriends. The 4 of us had a few drinks and headed out to the game, and everything seemed fine.

Over the next few hours however, consistent bad vibes from one of the girls started to overshadow the whole experience. Complaints about the hotel room, the seats at the ball stadium, and even the most miniscule things became an issue for her…

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I should be doing something. but I’m tired

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Confetti falling at a concert with bright colored lights
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Smart, simple strategies that lead to success

Last year, Snoop Dogg thanked himself in his Hollywood Star acceptance speech. He credited himself for all the hard work, for believing in himself, and for achieving the level of success he had achieved.

Why can’t we all have that same level of respect and admiration of ourselves?

Most of us believe we are capable of greatness, but there’s those nagging insecurities that make us feel that maybe we aren’t quite good enough.

What would happen if you removed self doubt and instead started being your biggest cheerleader?

When we focus on our shortcomings and fears, we’ll inevitably start doubting…

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Decoding a sentiment that has never been grasped by words

A few years ago, I was walking in Prague with another solo traveler I met at my accommodation. He was a near stranger. We met an hour prior and were carrying on a conversation about nothing in particular. I don’t remember much about him, but I do remember when he started to ask me a question that he never had the chance to finish.

“Have you ever missed something…”

he paused just long enough for me to say:

“That you have never had before?”

He stopped walking for a split second, gazing over at me before saying, “yeah…” in a…

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Stop judging a book by its cover.

I was 2 months into my round the world trip. My first experiences as a backpacker, at a hostel, and as a solo traveler were behind me. It felt like I had learned more about myself and life than in all the years up to that point.

But I still had many more lessons to learn. This time around, it was from a ‘dirty backpacker.’

My bus had pulled into the Bariloche, Argentina main station 15 minutes before. I was sitting on a bench planning the route to my accommodation after a 5-hour bus ride from Lago Llanquihue, Chile.


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Don’t wait until its too late.

My Uncle Jim died last week.

He was an easy-going, sarcastic guy with an authentic way of lacing his stories with words of wisdom. He had a refined taste and was a connoisseur of cognac, cigars, and golf. Sometimes he had dessert for dinner. Because, why not?

When faced with death, we often contemplate our own existence and the meaning behind it. What exactly are we living for? What is most important to us? What happens if we die tomorrow? What if we lose our parents, our children, or our spouse?

Are we living life to the fullest, or just…

Gina Bay

Writer | Editor | Traveler | Yogi | Sleeptalker |@GinaBayWrites

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